Persistence and Perception Often Pay Off

I Can Speak

English

I Would Describe Myself As

ABOUT ME I strive to live in the moment, and am content with both sophisticated and simple pleasures. Well read and well traveled, I'm also a family man who enjoys being a half-time dad to my 13 yo daughter and 15 yo son. Life is good, but could be so much better if shared. I’d characterize myself as well-rounded, and at this stage in life that means I’ve got rough edges smoothed, ego (mostly) tamed, interests varied, expectations minimized, and passions directed. I love cooking, reading, writing, movies, plays, galleries, museums, listening to all types of music, and so much more. Although I grew up competing in many sports, I’m not loyal to any one sport or team. So, short of a great college football match-up, a particular Olympic event, or some game/match/meet a friend is really passionate about, viewing sports is not a priority for me. I live near the beach and enjoy walking there year-round, but prefer going in the water during warm weather. I don’t drink – haven’t for more than 30 years – and have never regretted that decision. I’m not a recovering alcoholic or addict, just someone who decided to not partake. I’m OK if my partner drinks, as long as it’s not habitual. Even with a straight edge, I’m a keen conversationalist, an attentive listener, and I mingle well in a party or group setting. I love to laugh and joke and play with words, and can find common ground with most people. Solitude and silence have appeal as well (Earlier this week I learned that I’m an “Ambivert”… look it up), so I enjoy sharing time with someone who can “be on” and “just be”, depending on the circumstances and setting. We all need to give and receive gifts of time and touch, service and appreciation, to remain whole and healthy humans. Hopefully, this site will help us all find someone we connect with on multiple levels, and with whom we can freely and safely share those gifts. ABOUT YOU Since we’re both on this site, by definition we are resilient and resourceful people who have re-cast our confidence in the wake of hardship. Even with a common experience as a starting point, though, we are still seeking an elusive combination of connection and compatibility and those undefined elements of “chemistry” that might transform two “I’s” into a “We”. Discovering that magical combination is as improbable as ever, but it’s refreshing for once to be in a setting where our common curse is actually a blessing. I admire women who, like me, are comfortable leading or following, can navigate with a little planning and a lot of intuition, and communicate in ways that get their needs met. Of course, the elements of physical attraction and emotional availability, heartfelt connection and intellectual compatibility, are also essential factors inherent in a true friend and partner. But just as important is finding someone who doesn’t mind -- gently, or bluntly at times -- pointing out their loved one's flaws or what’s lurking in his/her blind spots. That kind of service/inclination is priceless, especially if reciprocated. I don't even pretend to know what unique blend of qualities and capabilities will lead to a successful outcome in our proverbial chemistry experiment. What's next has a way of magically materializing, though, so I figure it's our job to show up and pay attention throughout the process. What's your approach?

Sign

Aquarius

My Body Type Is

Athletic

My Height Is

6' 1 (1.85 m)

My Eyes Are

Blue

My Ethnicity Is

Caucasian

My Marital Situation Is

Divorced

I Have Kids

Yes - Sometimes At Home

My Best Feature Is

Hands

My Hair Is

Blonde

I Have One Or More Of These

No pets

Willing To Relocate

No

My Current Employment Status Is

Full-time

My Speciality Is

Education / Academic

I Live

With Kid(s)

I have

HSV-2 (herpes type 20)

At Home

All Is Calm

I'm A Smoker

No

I Drink

No

My Social Behavior Is

Observant, Friendly, Flirtatious, Outgoing

My Interest And Hobbies Are

Religion / Spirituality, Family, Photography, Exercising, Reading, Learning, Music, Movies, Theater, Travel, Cooking

My Idea Of A Great Time Is

Hanging Out With Friends, The Movies, Relaxing, Reading A Book, Going To A Concert, Going To A Museum

An Ideal First Date Would Be

Simple with plenty of time to talk

I've Always Wanted To Try

Scuba diving

My Religion Is

Spiritual But Not Religious

My Political Views Are

Middle Of The Road

My Kind Of Humor Is

Clever, Dry / Sarcastic, Goofy, Obscure

When I Go To The Movies, I Always Go To See A

Action, Comedy, Drama

When I Read, I Always Read

Biography, Classic, Fiction, Health, History, Science Fiction

What Do You Find Attractive?

Wit, Flirtatiousness, Boldness, Sensitivity, Empathy, Great Skills, Humor, Good Looks, Thoughtfullness

What Kind Of Relationship Are You Seeking?

Intimate, Committed